Caregiver Overload: How to Avoid Bursting Into Flames
Meet Lisa Huening:
Lisa Huening is the founder of The Shifting Path. As a public speaker on caregiving, her mission is driven by the passion to help others and through her own personal experience of the devastation that can occur when a family member is in crisis. Lisa is a member of the board of directors of the Saratoga Senior Center and the Senior Adult Legal Assistance organization, where she advocates for caregivers of the elderly through caregiver and elder education. She holds a master’s degree in Human Services focusing on families in later life as well as master’s degree in Education. She is a member of the American Society on Aging, The National Council on Aging, the National Organization of Human Services, and the National Alliance for Caregiving.
Caregiver Overload: How to Avoid Bursting Into Flames
Are you aware enough to recognize when you are experiencing caregiver overload? You may be fighting the fires of crisis after crisis in caregiving and yet not recognize when your own burnout is occuring. Some signs of burnout include: trouble sleeping, often feeling teary, an unusual amount of marital discourse, not feeling sociable with family and friends, depression, guilt, anxiety, anger, physical problems of your own surfacing, fatigue, and having to change your employment hours due to caregiving needs.
Being present, and connected is about the way you show up each day for yourself and for others. It isn’t always easy being present as a caregiver because there are so many things to worry about, especially when you are raising your children and taking care of aging parents. However, caregiver burnout is a very real issue and when you are going through the motions, not being aware, It can easily happen to anyone.
Strategies to Reduce Overload include:
If you are unsure what you need and where to begin, you can hire a Case Manager to come in a do an assessment of your caregiving situation. However, you want an assessment that is as just as much as about you as it is the person you are caring for. From there a plan of care can be developed with action items to get your caregiving on track. A plan of care executed well is with a team approach in mind.
Set Limits – Recognize what you can and cannot do in your caregiving role. Making compromises and adjust your expectations. And be willing to ask for help.
Work with the care receiver - Your parent or spouse should be part of the process. Talk to them about their wishes without controlling them. For example: work with your loved one to develop a list of questions for the doctor prior to an appointment.
Have Family Meetings - to discuss problems large and small as well as future needs to be better prepared. Planning ahead will avert some crisis. Treat these like business meetings with an agenda contributed by family members ahead of time so that everyone feels their concerns are being addressed.
Recognizing your own denial – This is a tough one, there are things we just don’t want to face as our parents or loved one ages. Someone from outside your family will often be better able to recognize problems and ways to fix or manage them. For example: someone with early stages of dementia is able to often hide the signs from other family members particularly if the person doesn’t live with a family member. We may want to think that our parent is handling things better than they are and therefore delay care they may really need due to our own coping strategies. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t because you don’t care, its because this is an emotional process, its hard!
Take time each day to unplug - Reconnect with yourself and your needs. It can be 10 minutes to meditate, have a cup of tea in front of a fireplace or on the porch enjoying the outdoors. Maybe it is reading a book for 30 minutes, a bath, or a walk alone with your spouse.
Today – Practice Being The Best You That You Can Possibly Be In This Moment – It is More Than Enough.
Senior Citizens Discounts
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RESTAURANTS:
Applebee's: 15% off with Golden Apple Card (60+)
Arby's: 10% off ( 55 +)
Ben & Jerry's: 10% off (60+)
Bennigan's: discount varies by location (60+)
Bob's Big Boy: discount varies by location (60+)
Boston Market: 10% off (65+)
Burger King: 10% off (60+)
Chick-Fil-A: 10% off or free small drink or coffee ( 55+)
Chili's: 10% off ( 55+)
CiCi's Pizza: 10% off (60+)
Denny's: 10% off, 20% off for AARP members ( 55 +)
Dunkin' Donuts: 10% off or free coffee ( 55+)
Einstein's Bagels: 10% off baker's dozen of bagels (60+)
Fuddruckers: 10% off any senior platter ( 55+)
Gaetti’s Pizza: 10% off (60+)
Golden Corral: 10% off (60+)
Hardee's: $0.33 beverages everyday (65+)
IHOP: 10% off ( 55+)
Jack in the Box: up to 20% off ( 55+)
KFC: free small drink with any meal ( 55+)
Krispy Kreme: 10% off ( 50+)
Long John Silver's: various discounts at locations ( 55+)
McDonald's: discounts on coffee everyday ( 55+)
Mrs. Fields: 10% off at participating locations (60+)
Shoney's: 10% off
Sonic: 10% off or free beverage (60+)
Steak 'n Shake: 10% off every Monday & Tuesday ( 50+)
Subway: 10% off (60+)
Sweet Tomatoes: 10% off (62+)
Taco Bell : 5% off; free beverages for seniors (65+)
TCBY: 10% off ( 55+)
Tea Room Cafe: 10% off ( 50+)
Village Inn: 10% off (60+)
Waffle House: 10% off every Monday (60+)
Wendy's: 10% off ( 55 +)
Whataburger: 10% off (62+)
White Castle: 10% off (62+)
RETAIL & APPAREL :
Banana Republic: 30% off ( 50 +)
Bealls: 20% off first Tuesday of each month ( 50 +)
Belk's: 15% off first Tuesday of every month ( 55 +)
Big Lots: 30% off
Bon-Ton Department Stores: 15% off on senior discount days ( 55 +)
C.J. Banks: 10% off every Wednesday (50+)
Clarks : 10% off (62+)
Dress Barn: 20% off ( 55+)
Goodwill: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Hallmark: 10% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Kmart: 40% off (Wednesdays only) ( 50+)
Kohl's: 15% off (60+)Modell's Sporting Goods: 30% off
Rite Aid: 10% off on Tuesdays & 10% off prescriptions
Ross Stores: 10% off every Tuesday ( 55+)
The Salvation Army Thrift Stores: up to 50% off ( 55+)
Stein Mart: 20% off red dot/clearance items first Monday of every month ( 55 +)
GROCERY :
Albertson's: 10% off first Wednesday of each month ( 55 +)
American Discount Stores: 10% off every Monday ( 50 +)
Compare Foods Supermarket: 10% off every Wednesday (60+)
DeCicco Family Markets: 5% off every Wednesday (60+)
Food Lion: 60% off every Monday (60+)
Fry's Supermarket: free Fry's VIP Club Membership & 10% off every Monday ( 55 +)
Great Valu Food Store: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
Gristedes Supermarket: 10% off every Tuesday (60+)
Harris Teeter: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
Hy-Vee: 5% off one day a week (date varies by location)
Kroger: 10% off (date varies by location)
Morton Williams Supermarket: 5% off every Tuesday (60+)
The Plant Shed: 10% off every Tuesday ( 50 +)
Publix: 15% off every Wednesday ( 55 +)
Rogers Marketplace: 5% off every Thursday (60+)
Uncle Guiseppe's Marketplace: 15% off (62+)
TRAVEL :
Airlines:
Alaska Airlines: 50% off (65+)
American Airlines: various discounts for 50% off non-peak periods. (Tuesdays - Thursdays) (62+)and up (call before booking for discount)
Continental Airlines: no initiation fee for Continental Presidents Club & special fares for select destinations.
Southwest Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount).
United Airlines: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount).
U.S. Airways: various discounts for ages 65 and up (call before booking for discount)
Rail:
Amtrak: 15% off (62+)
Bus:
Greyhound: 15% off (62+)
Trailways Transportation System: various discounts for ages 50+
Car Rental:
Alamo Car Rental: up to 25% off for AARP members
Avis: up to 25% off for AARP members
Budget Rental Cars: 40% off; up to 50% off for AARP members ( 50+)
Dollar Rent-A-Car: 10% off ( 50+) Enterprise Rent-A-Car: 5% off for AARP members Hertz: up to 25% off for AARP members
National Rent-A-Car: up to 30% off for AARP members
Overnight Accommodations:
Holiday Inn: 20-40% off depending on location (62+)
Best Western: 40% off (55+)
Cambria Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
Waldorf Astoria - NYC $5,000 off nightly rate for Presidential Suite (55 +)
Clarion Motels: 20%-30% off (60+)
Comfort Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Comfort Suites: 20%-30% off (60+)
Econo Lodge: 40% off (60+)
Hampton Inns & Suites: 40% off when booked 72 hours in advance
Hyatt Hotels: 25%-50% off (62+)
InterContinental Hotels Group: various discounts at all hotels (65+)
Mainstay Suites: 10% off with Mature Traveler's Discount (50+); 20%-30% off (60+)
Marriott Hotels: 25% off (62+)
Motel 6: Stay Free Sunday nights (60+)
Myrtle Beach Resort: 30% off ( 55 +)
Quality Inn: 40%-50% off (60+)
Rodeway Inn: 20%-30% off (60+)
Sleep Inn: 40% off (60+)
ACTIVITIES & ENTERTAINMENT :
AMC Theaters: up to 30% off ( 55 +)
Bally Total Fitness: $100 off memberships (62+)
Busch Gardens Tampa, FL: $13 off one-day tickets ( 50 +)
Carmike Cinemas: 35% off (65+)
Cinemark/Century Theaters: up to 35% off
Massage Envy - NYC 20% off all "Happy Endings" (62 +)
U.S. National Parks: $10 lifetime pass; 50% off additional services including camping (62+)
Regal Cinemas: 50% off Ripley's Believe it or Not: @ off one-day ticket ( 55 +)
SeaWorld, Orlando , FL : $3 off one-day tickets ( 50 +)
CELL PHONE DISCOUNTS :
AT&T: Special Senior Nation 200 Plan $19.99/month (65+)
Jitterbug: $10/month cell phone service ( 50 +)
Verizon Wireless: Verizon Nationwide 65 Plus Plan $29.99/month (65+).
MISCELLANEOUS:
Great Clips: $8 off haircuts (60+)
Supercuts: $8 off haircuts (60+)