In the season of gift giving and relationships, we can be caught up in wondering how to handle a relationship (and buying a gift) for someone that really is not a positive influence in our life.

We may wish the relationship would change to be positive, in fact we may be spending a lot of energy on working to improve a situation, but it just doesn’t seem to be a two way street.

This is a difficult thing to deal with, especially during the holiday season.  You may ask yourself questions like; Whether you should buy that person a gift, how much you should spend, will the other person buy you a gift, all important questions to be asking, especially when you are on a budget.

Ask yourself if the energy you are spending on the relationship is making YOU a better person.  If you do not believe in your heart, that the relationship is helping you grow to be the person you want to be, and in fact it tends to bring out negative feelings and frustration, take a step back.  Although it is the season to reach out and help others, you need to be honest with yourself and allow your real feelings that are telling you to stop making this friendship out to be more than it is, be your “new normal.”

We are heading towards a new year; filled with fresh options, ideas and new opportunities.  Make it your first priority to choose wisely who you spend your time and money on, knowing that they truly are the kind of person that is kind.  “Now, let’s get going!”  xo Sally