We all get angry. Sometimes we feel so strongly about something, that anger results instead of constructive ideas related to how to change the situation. Many times our anger can be self-directed, because we continue to put up with the same circumstances over and over. Which is it for you? What tends to anger you?
Realistically our bodies respond when we hold on to anger and stress. The physical manifestations of anger can be insomnia, to the point where you have to take medication to help you sleep, stomach pain that has the capability to turn into ulcers, as well as severe headaches that require medication. In other words holding onto anger can make you sick.
When we feel stuck, we can feel helpless to change the problem. The feelings are then held inside and illness can result. To feel that a problem has no solution or that the resolution would take so long it seems impossible, does not move you or a situation forward. All of these can produce angry feelings.
The goal here is to learn how NOT to hold onto anger. Anger can be a normal response, but not being able to let it go creates a problem. Recognizing that you are holding on to angry feelings long after the issue has ended, should not be ignored. You can learn better coping skills. If you are holding onto anger for some reason, you need to identify exactly what the cause of it is, and make every effort to change your approach to the person or situation that it involves. Letting go of angry feelings takes effort and a mature attitude. When you hold on to anger the other person is rarely as affected by it as you are. Life is about change. Let us know what you are dealing with and we are glad to help. “Now, let’s get going.” xo Sally
