When things are not going your way, how do you handle it?
Some people try to talk their way out of everything. There are those people that have difficulty with quiet moments. Silence is a powerful tool. I often think that it can leave a stronger impression than the most creative comments.
You do not need to talk constantly to get your point across. Some people use a good dose of silence when they are frustrated, to avoid saying something that they may be sorry for later. That is good advice. But don’t use silence as a way to avoid communication. The trick is to learn to use silence when it is meaningful-not when you would like to be mean.
Silence can be perceived as a way to shut down a conversation when you are angry. Try not to leave that impression with people. Try using silence as a skill, like the old song; “you have to learn when to hold ‘em and know when to fold em.” Even though that phrase was associated with a card game…you want to use silence to promote a space to give others their chance to present their view.
There is nothing more important than listening to what people have to say. You will gain their respect, while you give them their chance to express themselves. Use that tool today. Practice listening. Don’t use silence as a “scream.”
“Now let’s get going!” xo Sally
